People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly - you usually don't use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over
While still remaining who you are, you can bring about a quantum leap in your awareness, and the sign that the leap is real will be some emergent property you never experienced in the past.
Why does the mind habitually deny or resist the Now? Because it cannot function and remain in control without time, which is past and future, so it perceives the timeless Now as threatening. Time and mind are in fact inseparable.
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person.
Thich Nhat Hanh
There is a saying in Tibetan, "Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength." No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that's our real disaster.
If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry.
Musicians must make music, artists must paint, poets must write if they are to be ultimately at peace with themselves. What human beings can be, they must be. They must be true to their own nature. This need we may call self-actualization.
There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, in fact, great. There do in fact exist creators, seers, sages, saints, shakers, and movers... And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed. To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it.
"We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time."
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now -- when?"
"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes."
"Do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself, (I am large, I contain multitudes.)
Level 2 of ‘Systemic Theory & Practice in Family Constellations’ is an experiential course. In my experience this work is amazing to understand intergenerational trauma, honouring ancestors and including every experience and everyone without judgment. I have come to realize the unconscious patterns, sabotages and movements towards life and death. As a sports psychologist, I can see how constellation work can open blocks and the way emerges for sustainable performance.
I work as a sports psychologist with elite athletes and high-performing teams. I also work as a guest faculty of sports psychology.
Priyanka Prabhakar – Sports Psychologist
At the beginning of L2, I was unclear how I would integrate working with family constellations and the coaching work that I do. All I knew was that a systemic lens was opened for me and I could not unsee it as I worked with people in a coaching context. I took a step into L2 very tentatively, and I am so glad that Annie held my hand as I took that step. This work is immense and is slowly making its way to my clients in ways I could not foresee.
Of course, L2 prepared me to open constellations with clients, and that seems almost a secondary experience for me. L2 has first been a deeply healing and perspective shifting experience for me personally. I experienced a deepening and an expansion within myself. L2 has also shaped the way in which I hold space for my clients. Bert’s high art of helping guides me on the position I take with clients and keeps me grounded.
Looking back, I now realise that I have received so much more than what my initial intention might have been. I am humbled and ever so grateful.
I am a Systemic Transition Coach and I partner with people as they navigate the labyrinth of transitions in their inner or outer lives.
Nitasha Adya – Systemic Transition Coach
Family constellation work through Bert’s words have given me the pillars to rely on as I journey through in this life . It is expansive and liberating in nature. I know that this understanding of Family soul and the greater soul is helping me to carry my fate and consciously move in the direction of completeness.
I am grateful to Annie and Rekha for holding space , the teaching and the readings. Annie , you have been a stable powerhouse throughout. Thank you for doing this work with the dignity and integrity you hold. I am forever touched by this experience. Transformational is the right word to describe this experience of Level 1 in Family Constellation. Thank you so much.
I work as a Senior Counsellor at 1to1 Help, with close to 10 years of work experience in the field of counselling and training.
Words fail me as I try to describe the depth and impact of the six month long Level 1 course in Systemic Theory & Family Constellations. It really has been quite the journey, and each step has been a revelation! I am in such deep gratitude for the work, the safety and nourishment of my group of co-travellers and the grace and wisdom of the facilitators.
I have witnessed a significant transformation in myself and in my relationships within the family system. To me, it seems that the weight of the pain of several generations, over tens of decades, has lifted and my heart and soul are at ease. Annie, Thank you for everything you do, and for all that you bring forth in the world. I am in constant awe of the grace, dignity and wisdom you embody. Very keenly looking forward to Level 2 🙂
Nirali Manchanda – Yoga and Wellness Facilitator
I was privileged to engage in the Family Constellation Training with Annie Cariapa and Spanda this year.
As the principal trainer, Annie has a quiet, commanding presence and an absolute wealth of knowledge which she is hugely willing to share. She is a born teacher and is beautifully kind and able to challenge when needed, all of the qualities needed for a superb teacher.
Rekha Kurup, who assisted her on the course, mirrors all of these qualities and I felt I was always in such safe hands with her. She too is a font of knowledge and India should be extremely proud of these two women!
It was an honour to join with the other course participants and learn in such a nurturing environment.
I would have absolutely no hesitation in recommending this course and I am so happy to know that such excellent family constellation training is available.
Siobhán Everard – Psychotherapist living and working in Ireland
L1 was an experience like no other for me. The space was so gently held, and the systemic dimension was opened in a gradual unfolding that left me in awe and gratitude every single step of the way.
The modules were thoughtfully and lovingly created. The reading material between the modules and the reading groups were immensely helpful in assimilating the fundamentals of family constellations, as created by Bert Hellinger.
Being a seeker and being in the holding circle in the many constellations that were opened, was precious, to say the least. My inner horizon widened and the journey offered healing that somehow bubbles up at different times in the natural flow of life, beckoning a new way of being.
Words seem inadequate to share my experience in its entirety. I feel humbled with the opportunity to have experienced this body of work.
Nitasha Adya – Systemic Transition Coach